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If both partners in a relationship feel that their needs are being met, that relationship is likely to be good for the long-term. Failing to meet both partner’s needs is one of the biggest reasons relationships don’t work out.

A good start to getting your needs met in a relationship is to make sure the other person knows just what those needs are. You can’t read minds, and you shouldn’t expert your partner to be able to read minds either. He or she wants to make sure your relationships needs are met, but you have to let them know what they are first.

Of course, you need to be ready to listen to your partner’s need as well. You might be surprised to learn who different your partners needs and desires are from what you think.

You might feel the need for you partner to tell you he loves you often, so may you do that for him. He no doubt enjoys that, but maybe what he really needs is for you to do quick considerate things to make him feel special. Some people like to be told, and other people prefer loving action.

Communication is key to making any long term relationship work. Discussing your needs is a good place to start. If you both know what each of you want, it’s easier for you to keep each other happy. If such a conversation is beyond your normal comfort zone, don’t let your discomfort stop you. Honest discussion is always a good idea and one of the best ways to strengthen a relationship. Plus, it’ll make it more likely you’ll each get what you need.

When people don’t get what they want they often resort to passive-aggressive behavior thinking it’s better than open conflict. However, since a healthy relationship depends on accurate communication, this doesn’t work. If he does take your hint, it’s only after you’ve acted put upon, angry and resentful. So his doing the dishes might be only to keep you from acting that way.

If you ask for something you need, explaining that getting it makes you feel loved and appreciated, you’re more likely to get it than you would be if you complained or tried to guilt-trip your partner into giving it to you.    

Also keep in mind that each of us is responsible for our own well-being and happiness. This is yet another reason why it important to develop the ability to communicate honestly with each other.

As you probably realize, it’s normal for relationships to have their ups and downs. One shortcut through the rough patches is to learn from others.

Your friends may or may not be relationship experts but sometimes their too close to you to see everything clearly.

Fortunately, the web makes it easy to get reliable advice.

One site I like a lot is The Relationship Fix.

That site covers just about every aspect of relationships, but has some especially good information to help get you through tough times (after all, most of us can handle the good times without any help.

For example, you can find advice on How to Fix a Long Term Relationship.  Another page (Second Chance Romance Review) reviews a program that teaches ways to get a relationship back on track.

Just remember that all relationships grow and evolve. Some growing pains are to be expected. A loving, ling-term relationship is well worth the effort.