The first thought to burst into my mind the moment my girlfriend dumped me was to phone her and persuade her to come back. Things will be different this time.  I had changed.. You are a new man and have come to your senses. It is alright for your girlfriend to hang out with her close friends on occasion and you have come around and trust her completely. You’re prepared to step back and allow her a bit of personal space. Suddenly you’ve come to be a more understanding guy.

You contact her and she replies tactfully but tells you she isn’t going to believe you and that she must have a bit to have a think and choose. Everything seems fine and you say goodbye, you start to feel somewhat more at peace. The next day you wish to meet up with her and have coffee or something like that so you decide to get a hold of her again. She cannot hang out because she is spending time with a “friend” in class to work on a school project; possibly a different time will work better. It feels as though you have been punched in the stomach and you go insane working not to think of the two of them kissing over a Physics textbook.

You begin contacting her all day long and sending her texts and emails and start to push her over the line. She tells you that you’re precisely the same as before. You’re the same bothersome, immature, insecure man you were when she broke up with you. She decides that the trouble isn’t worth it and gets a different phone number, blocks you from her e-mail and you are alone and messed up after losing your one chance to get her back.

I would sit in my car and check out her house waiting around for her to show up just to see who she was with. I’d be there for a long time waiting and when she at last appeared I would straight away regret doing it. The sight of them together made me feel sick to my stomach. I simply could not acknowledge that reality that my girlfriend dumped me. I’d try to figure out where she’d be when she would go out with her friends and I’d “just happen to” be there attempting to speak with her and get her away from her group. My ex-girlfriend would get nervous and anxious the instant she noticed me enter the cafe or pub. She’d roll her eyes at her friends and they would leave during the next couple of minutes.

This is not what you wish to happen to you.  I’ll be straightforward with you here, you can win your ex-girlfriend back, but you have to be in control about this and you will need a reliable strategy.  If you just do what I did when my girlfriend dumped me, you’re only going to ruin your chances.

It doesn’t matter how horrible things may well seem, you can heal your relationship.  You merely ought to back away somewhat and provide her some space to ponder over things and grant her a while to truly miss you (take my word, she will definitely miss you eventually).  My girlfriend dumped me and I made pretty much every possible mistake initially, but I finally realized what I had to do and fixed our relationship before everything became too much out of control.

The very first and most sensible thing for you to do, when you are feeling like the breakup is driving you crazy is to simply disconnect from your ex.  Make the promise to yourself to not speak to her for two to four weeks.  Make use of this time to improve yourself and get your life straight.  That’s what I did when my girlfriend dumped me, and it was really a a changing point for everything.

Now that you know what NOT to do, it’s time you learned what you SHOULD do to get her back before it’s too late.  Check out My Girlfriend Dumped Me, Stop a Breakup Tips, and She Walked Out the Door.

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