Choosing the right mate will be the most important decision one will ever face in life. Quite a few other choices may seem more momentous, for example those involving a career or one’s education, but, all things considered, deciding with whom to spend one’s life and love is, in a million-and-one ways subtle and not-so-subtle, much far more important by far.

This sounds so self-evident and obvious that many don’t realize how easy it is to go wrong. A beautiful smile, an exciting physique, winning words and shared laughs can color and outright distort our perceptions. When we are already “sold” on the person, it will be extremely hard to step back and take careful stock of just what the other man or woman truly has to offer.

As well, it really is also tough to discern everything unless one is able to spend a lot of time with the significant other, under many different circumstances – as well as the most time-efficient way to actually do this is to live together.

For it is in living together and being exposed to the mundane routines of daily life that a person’s full character comes into the picture. It might sound incredible, but little details can be very telling, and they’re hidden inside the nuances of the everyday.

While dating, everybody is on their best behavior, even if only unconsciously. Being an intimate part of each other’s lives, nevertheless, in the way only a husband and wife could be, truly shows who the other man or women is – and who you yourself really are.

Living together is nothing more than a practice run at marriage. It is the adult version of “playing house.” No matter how well you think you know the other individual, and no matter how well you feel you know yourself, there is nothing like living together and experiencing another man or woman in all his or her humanity, both good and bad.

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