Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author, writes… …
I get asked questions about how to find love , the kind of love that lasts. I thought I’d share some of the frequently asked questions and the Universal Law of Attraction model answer.
1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. I’m afraid my time has passed.
If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.
If you’ve been asking and it’s not been forthcoming, there’s only one reason. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. Look for whatever that limiting belief is and work with a coach to soften and shift that belief. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.
2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Every day, several times per day.
By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a fun weekend getaway for her … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.
Mail this postNanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …
Finding Love After 40 doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in the haystack. For many women finding love after 40 is not as uncommon as you may think. From my practical experience in relationship coaching, I work with women in their 30’s all the way to women in their 70’s and they learn what they need to do to alter their thinking about what’s possible in love and partnership for them.
Finding your the perfect mate is not a numbers game. Finding true love is not only for the young or young at hears. It’s also not about being settling down and settling for less.
In my world, you CAN have it all. You deserve to have it all. That’s what is available to you in relationship coaching classes. The belief that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince is an outworn myth. Limiting beliefs and feeling like you’re too old to find love again are all part of outmoded opinions taught to us by our culture. Fortunately, leading edge science and quantum physics are teaching us that our thoughts create our reality. As a relationship coach, my passion in life is to help you find out how.
Before you can create your desired relationship reality, you need to know what has been blocking you. Your experiences will always follow your expectations. If that’s so – and it is – then you want to know what’s in the way of you getting your expectations met. Said in another way, you want to get clear of what has been in the way (limiting beliefs) of you having the love you desire and deserve.
Here are a couple potent societal influences that inhibit us from having our relationship desires met.
1. The Influence of Others
Our families, friends and the media carry a lot of influence. If you’re constantly looking outside to see what’s possible for your in relationships, you’ll be comparing yourself to someone else’s standards. That rarely works for long term relationship happiness.
2. Habits of Thought or Beliefs
Your beliefs, like the air your breathe are rarely questioned. At one time it was TRUE that the earth was flat. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you in relationship will only keep the status quo in place. If you’d like to shift that, enroll in relationship coaching courses and learn to break through your own limitations.
It’s no more difficult to find love after 40 than it is to find love in your 20’s. I manifested to love of my dreams in my late forty’s after two divorces and several relationship failures. When I got clear of what my limiting beliefs were, the love of my life entered in a very short time. I know you can create the love of your dreams, I did it and you can too.
Mail this postNanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… Contrary to widely held relationship advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your date a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and have her looking for the door.
Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.
It’s more acceptable these days for a real woman to open his heart and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a prized attribute and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Dating the first place to start is to know what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that he likes sports? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when he’s] the right one.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you’d be surprised on how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
4. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you are really clear on you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
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