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My name is Lee Mainprize and I am really glad that you are giving me this opportunity to make a difference to you and your child, and would like to congratulate you for taking the time to help boost your child’s self confidence and development.

I’ve spent years learning and growing and trying to figure out just exactly what the difference is between achievers: i.e. those that ‘do’, and those that ‘don’t’.

Have you observed that successful people have patterns? Often these are the key to their success or failure.

And I know that success is no accident.

There are certain steps and pathways to excellence which has to be termed the science of achievement.  I will be sharing these steps with you starting with the first one ‘Teach Them To Know What They Want In Life’ below.

Even a seemingly ‘perfect’ background doesn’t guarantee that children achieve… they may have been given the money, access to mentors and the many other so called advantages, but simply lacked the motivation to make it work for them.

Although we are not born with the qualities to succeed, the great news is they can be learned.

Qualities like:-

• Confidence
• Motivation
• Self Discipline
• Focus

And more.

Think of academic education as the ‘food’ and think of personal development as the ‘knife and fork’; without being able to use a knife and fork well, we wouldn’t be able to get the academic results in life.

So investing in your kids self improvement specifically for your child’s personal development will arm them with the skills required to succeed both at school and in life and lead to a more successful and fulfilling journey. For example if your child is intelligent but lacks the focus to follow through, it’s obviously going to let them down.

A fundamental skill is to help your child to learn to deal with set backs and overcome obstacles as this is what will give them psychological strength—it’s the very thing that forms character.

Teach Them To Know What They Want In Life

If you are already wondering where to start, you must begin by knowing what it is that you are after; which direction you are going in.

To help you and your child to identify the personal goals and increase your childs self esteem goals to aim for, focus on asking this: ‘What is important to you?’, ‘What do you want to do?’, ‘What do you want to achieve?’?  Because to be successful you must learn to know where it is you want to go in life!

For example, imagine going on a holiday without knowing where you are going.  If you have your bags packed ready for some sun but end up in Iceland, you wouldn’t be too happy.  So be aware that if you don’t know where you are going you could end up somewhere you don’t want to be!

Ask your child to write their goals down in a way that inspires them, maybe using pictures or photos.  And remember goals are simply dreams written down.

Here’s to the Success of our Children

When your child is clear about their goals, and is planning to achieve them, it is a great time to get to work on how to make it all happen – how action brings momentum into play and makes success a reality.

Taking action is a fundamental habit of all achievers.  When others are unfocused and can’t be bothered, the achiever is able to take massive action and get a great deal done.

Child Self Confidence is a truly great quality to encourage, wouldn’t you agree?

Ask your child ‘Do you REALLY want to achieve your goals? Then impress upon them the need to take action. Not just every so often, or when they feel like it, but as often as they can.

If the “Why” of why they want to achieve their goal is big enough in their mind then this will provide great motivation, and when they have a plan and take action, success will be theirs.

Train them that that you can’t just want something and do nothing about it; action is a crucial part of success!

I can’t impress upon you enough just how easy it is for your child to become ‘stuck’, held back by their fears.  Fears can be powerful enough to prevent us from moving forwards with our lives, we can create a little bubble or comfort zone around what we allow ourselves to believe we can do… and yet we can always do better than we think we can.

Building your kids self esteem this skill will not only help them to break free from this common constraint, but will also give your child the great confidence to know that they have the power to achieve most of the things they set out to.  

Furthermore, having their mind focused on being proactive and focusing on what they can do, rather than what they can’t do, offers them tremendous personal power, and ensures that they are driven by their commitments and not by how they feel.

Coach them that each time that they do something they need to do, when they don’t feel like doing it, they are a champion in life, a quality which will lead to many great things.

If you can encourage your child to work each day on their goals, you will soon find that they get closer to them as time goes by.  The journey may seem long, but to travel a little each day will ultimately bring about great progress!

For example, as in other aspects of your child development, if they want to be a great musician, they must practice their instrument every day for twenty minutes.

Or, if they want to be a black belt in Karate, they must be sure to practice their moves!

Have them say out loud this phrase – ‘Inch by inch it’s a cinch, yard by yard it’s hard’!

Here’s to Happy and Healthy Children

Barry used to boast to his drinking pals how he could maintain a demanding and fulltime job and get smashed almost every night. Regrettably, after engaging in this unhealthy lifestyle for just about three-and-a-half years, he began to observe various alcohol related difficulties.

Barry Begins to Manifest a Variety of Alcohol Related Issues

As an illustration, he had a real difficult time getting up for work because he felt so tired when he got up. Not only this, but virtually every morning Barry suffered from a dreadful hangover. Without a doubt, the combination of his hangovers and his lack of energy did not make it easy for him to get up and feel inspired to go to work. To add fuel to the fire, he just received his third driving under the influence citation in the past four months.

To complicate things further, at his place of employment his last two work evaluations were not up to his usual high standards. And lastly, his four-and-a-half-year relationship with his girlfriend had worsened due to his depression, angry outbursts, financial difficulties, and his lack of patience.

Though Barry was only twenty-eight years old, he simply began looking like he was in his mid thirties. Sadly, this is what abusive and irresponsible drinking can do to a person. And in all candor he grasped the fact that he was going through the negative effects of alcohol abuse or alcohol addiction and that he was too young to fritter away his life to unhealthy and irresponsible drinking. So initially he tried to drink responsibly and in moderation. Sadly, he soon grasped the fact that he lost his self control after consuming his first drink. Stated another way, after his first drink he invariably proceeded to get smashed. Due to the fact that this was an event that was repeated every time he went out to drink, this obviously concerned him a great deal. In truth, he started to wonder if he was manifesting some of the signs of alcoholism and alcohol abuse.

Barry Makes up His Mind To Schedule an Appointment to See His Family Doctor

After going over his excessive alcohol ingestion and his excessive and irresponsible drinking with his girlfriend, he finally made up his mind to schedule an appointment to see his doctor. When Barry saw his family doctor, he frankly declared that he has been abusing alcohol, that he may be manifesting alcoholic signs, and that he wants to stop drinking. He then mentioned that drinking responsibly and in moderation doesn’t work well for him and, as a consequence, he wants to learn how he can live without drinking alcohol.

Barry also told his healthcare professional about his depression and how this mental health issue was adversely affecting his relationship with his lady friend. His healthcare professional referred Barry to Doctor Gordon, a drug and alcohol addiction psychiatrist, who motivated Barry to enroll in a drug and alcohol treatment facility as an in-patient for alcohol detox and alcohol rehab. Fortunately, Barry would also be able to get medical attention for his depression at this treatment center.

Abstaining From Drinking Was the Best Decision Barry Had Ever Made

After five months of rigorous rehab, Barry left the in-patient rehab center and continued his recovery via going to local Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and via outpatient therapy. Encouraged to change his life in a more productive manner, Barry bought some vitamins at a health store and a cookbook. He then joined a fitness center and began working out three or four times per week. Within four months Barry was a new individual. He was eating nutritious meals, he wasn’t depressed anymore, he now looked younger than he was, he was in shape, and most significant of all, he remained sober for several months. He also became more patient, he didn’t resort to angry outbursts, and he became a more caring individual in his relationship with his girlfriend. In short, quitting drinking was the best decision Barry had ever made.